Dealing with Anxiety First Month Home With Baby

BABY NUMBER ONE

My first month home with our baby as a first time mom was very nerve-wracking. We named my first Izarra and she was a preemie, so she was very tiny and fit in the palm of both hands. I was so afraid of hurting her little limbs and smushing her by accident. I decided to co-slept the first few days with her in the crib next to us. We had her crib pushed next to our bed so I could grab her with easy access if needed. My issue at the time was that she was so small I was afraid of her not breathing at some point. So, I was constantly up back and forth checking to see if she would still be breathing. Honey! I was a sleep deprived mother and my nerves wouldn’t let me sleep peacefully. So, once I got tired of constantly worrying I started to sleep with her in my arms in our bed. Now, I know most people do not agree with that and will yell every bad thing that could happen but ladies we know our body and ourselves better than anyone so my opinion on co-sleeping with our baby in the bed is trusting what you can do and do what’s best for you and your baby. Ladies, it’s time to stop worrying about what any other mom or person thinks of you and how you parent your children. If they are fed, clothed, developing properly and doing just fine ignore the people that have a problem because they are not the ones at your house taking care of your kids. You have to do what works for you as a parent. So, if you have to bring your child to the bathroom with you don’t feel ashamed. If your child is fussy sleeping by themselves and they feel like they need to fall asleep feeding on your boob don’t feel bad because the person complaining is not the one sleep deprived, and listening to your baby screaming through the night.

Let me know in the comments if you co-sleep or thought about co-sleeping. And what are your thoughts on co-sleeping?

So, after I made that transition, I got wayyyy more sleep and my baby slept through the whole night every day. I never had issues with her being up at night. We did have feeding issues. Which, she did not get breastfed because she didn’t really latch on and once she did start too I wasn’t producing more than 1-1.5 oz of milk in an hour and less than a half oz in 30-40 minutes. So she was formula fed and lactose intolerant. The formula did delay her weight gain for the first 3 months because the hospital put her on the Similac sensitive and I kept informing them that she may be lactose intolerant because it’s a strong gene that’s been passed down each generation. So she kept spitting up a lot and didn’t pick up any weight. Mind you, my daughter was 5lbs 6oz when she was born and her first week she dropped down to 4lbs and maintained 4-5lb weight for the first 2months. So, if you have a feeling about something trust your gut. The hospital is not always right. Once we got my baby on a lactose-free formula, Similac Alimentum, she finally started to gain weight and keep the milk down and that was in her third month.

Sidenote: she didn’t fit newborn clothes until she was closer to 4months old.

She was pretty quiet most of the time. Very alert when she would be up. She only cried when she needed something thing and slept most of the day. So the first month with her was pretty smooth and she pretty much made her own schedule that she stuck to every day without my influence. Now my first month with my second baby was much different as my first baby was 18 months old by the time 2nd baby girl was born.

BABY NUMBER TWO

So in the hospital, I did breastfeed right away and it went great my previous experience breastfeeding my first helped me be more confident with breastfeeding my second. So, I didn’t have any help my first time around but my second time around I did have my mother in laws help and my husband was more involved the second time around.

So baby number two was named xemina and  was a very chill baby. I did also cosleep with her which was way easier with breastfeeding. And bonding time with her sister during the whine down hours of the night. I forgot to mention it’s hard keeping up with yourself. especially, When you don’t have much help. for example, eating properly and taking regular showers or Remembering to do your hair before leaving. Baby girl didn’t cry as much either but she was very alert and active for her age. She didn’t have a schedule but she did get hungry faster than my first. I’m assuming it was because of the breast milk not being as filling as the formula. She was an average size baby she was born 7lbs. Didn’t have any feeding issues. I ate what I wanted and it didn’t affect her at all. Her sister definitely was very hands on with her and loved helping to change her diaper. It was a battle for attention with my toddler when I would be holding the baby. So I did put the baby down a lot instead of cuddling bonding time. And used that napping time to show my oldest attention and love. They didn’t get jealous of one another but my oldest was very overprotective of her. She didn’t want anyone holding her sister, or playing with her. She would scream and cry if you took her little sister. Even if it was her daddy, she did not play. She has a strong loving bond with her sister but she still had her moments of being selfish with her. i’ll admit If I didn’t have my mother in law I probably would have been starving forgetting to eat. And my husband gave me time to wash my hair and take quick showers. So I was able to take care of myself better the second time around versus the first time. My healing process from my c section healed faster the second time around. Which took two weeks the first time and one week the second time. So if you want to know more about the first few months with baby let me know in the comment section!

LETS TALK: how did your first month go or if you are getting closer to having your baby how do you hope your first month goes? And will you have help or are you going to be on your own?

COMMENT BELOW: how old was your baby when he or she was born and how long did your baby stay in newborn clothes and diapers? Or did your baby skip completely?

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